{"id":8432,"date":"2017-07-21T10:52:10","date_gmt":"2017-07-21T17:52:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/?p=8432"},"modified":"2021-08-26T18:38:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-27T01:38:17","slug":"its-on-my-calendar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/2017\/07\/21\/its-on-my-calendar\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s on my Calendar&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"float: right;\" title=\"checklist-4.gif\" src=\"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/checklist-4.gif\" alt=\"Checklist 4\" width=\"288\" height=\"276\" border=\"0\"><\/p>\n<p>The accusatory reminder is sitting there.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBlog,\u201d It says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cAbout what,\u201d I think to myself.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat I have nothing to say?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The reminder is implacable. I should just delete the little bastard, that\u2019d show it. Consign it to the digital hell of forgotten \u201cTo Dos\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>But as A friend has reminded me and several well renowned authors have said;<\/p>\n<p>Write anything, just write daily.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, I\u2019m writing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The internet is an interesting thing. I was able to distract myself from writing for a whole hour. I was suddenly curious about an old High School friend. Actually, he was my best friend. I may have found traces of him, but doubt seriously that we\u2019ll ever re-connect.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>That relationship ended in a weird way in 1980 (I think). I honestly don\u2019t remember now. I just remember thinking as I watched my friends back receding from my view that this was probably the last time I\u2019d see him.<\/p>\n<p>Then I got busy living my life and I assume he got busy living his.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Through the years I\u2019ve been curious about him and how his life had gone. I tried sending a letter or two and the occasional Christmas card. I don\u2019t know if they ever found their intended recipient. These items were sent with paper and an actual stamp, but there was no reply. &nbsp;I suppose I had an answer in that &#8211; there was no reply.<\/p>\n<p>Nonetheless I\u2019ve been curious through the years.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>With more and more data and personal information being stored and made available on the internet, it\u2019s a lot easier to locate someone from your past. They don\u2019t even have to have a social media account. Public records can go a long way toward letting you find someone.<\/p>\n<p>Regarding my long lost friend\u2026 Either he was arrested for domestic battery in 2002, OR he\u2019s living in a nice house, in the town that we grew up in working a blue collar job. The latter is, I think most likely. The second result\u2019s age lines up more closely.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" style=\"float: right;\" title=\"thinkstockphotos-162406124.jpg\" src=\"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/thinkstockphotos-162406124.jpg\" alt=\"Thinkstockphotos 162406124\" width=\"298\" height=\"168\" border=\"0\"><\/p>\n<p>The mug shot is striking in its similarity to the face I remember.<\/p>\n<p>However, I think it highly unlikely that the police would be off by 5 years on the person\u2019s age.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps it was a relative\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Not that an arrest record would be a reason for me not to re-connect. Multiple arrest records would be another issue.<\/p>\n<p>This appears to be a one-off, and God knows I\u2019ve had my knock down drag out fights with significant others over the years. Had some of those fights happened while I was living in an apartment\u2026 Well, then probably a mug shot of me would be gracing search results on the internet too.<\/p>\n<p>The legal definition of Battery is surprisingly vague. I could see slightly rough sex being considered battery.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I could easily imagine doing the same thing this week, that you did last week where your partner was really into it. Only to find out that your partner wasn\u2019t into it today, and was flat out pissed off. Next thing you know, you\u2019re having unflattering pictures (<em>Front and Profile<\/em>) taken.<\/p>\n<p>I wonder what it would be like to re-connect with my friend. Would it be like no time had passed, or would the time and life experiences be so different that the gulf simply could not be bridged?<\/p>\n<p>Would we each be disappointed with the effort? Is it better to let sleeping dogs simply lie?<\/p>\n<p>The question is\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Do I want to put this on my \u201cBucket List\u201d or not? Given that we\u2019re both as old as we are if this is something I\u2019d like to do, I should probably get on the stick about it. I\u2019d hate to drive all that way only to lay flowers on a grave.<\/p>\n<p>Something to ponder, I suppose.<\/p>\n<hr>\n<p>Oh Look!<\/p>\n<p>I can now check blogging off the list of things to do today.<\/p>\n<p>Huzzah!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The accusatory reminder is sitting there. \u201cBlog,\u201d It says. \u201cAbout what,\u201d I think to myself. \u201cThat I have nothing to say?\u201d The reminder is implacable. I should just delete the little bastard, that\u2019d show it. Consign it to the digital hell of forgotten \u201cTo Dos\u201d. But as A friend has reminded me and several well &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/2017\/07\/21\/its-on-my-calendar\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;It&#8217;s on my Calendar&#8230;&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[71,13,44,43],"tags":[175],"class_list":["post-8432","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-fail","category-friendship","category-male","category-male-friendship","tag-male"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8432","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8432"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8432\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8434,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8432\/revisions\/8434"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8432"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8432"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8432"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}