{"id":5738,"date":"2015-03-18T07:30:20","date_gmt":"2015-03-18T14:30:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/?p=5738"},"modified":"2021-01-08T19:38:46","modified_gmt":"2021-01-09T03:38:46","slug":"wow-just-wow","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/2015\/03\/18\/wow-just-wow\/","title":{"rendered":"Wow! just wow."},"content":{"rendered":"

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Just heard about this one in my local area.<\/p>\n

Middle schoolers in a suicide pact?  Where the hell does that come from?<\/p>\n

Their lives are so tortured that before they can drive they\u2019re trying to kill themselves?  <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong I have no pity for them and almost wish they\u2019d succeeded. Then they\u2019d at least serve a purpose, kind of a signpost that says it\u2019s not really all that bad.<\/p>\n

It would give other parents the opportunity to say \u201cNow girls, go plug yourselves into your ipods, do your homework, and we\u2019ll call you when the pizza gets here to feed your fat asses<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

I do pity their parents.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What must go through a parents mind upon learning their child was in an almost successful suicide pact? That must be horrible and then of course there\u2019s the high probability that CPS is going to be all up their asses.<\/p>\n

Add to that, the stress of paying the co-pay for hospitalization and on-going psychiatric care possibly lasting for years and in short order I could see the parents having all kinds of difficulties. I\u2019m talking marriage ending kinds of problems. I can\u2019t even imagine the weight of guilt these parents are laboring under.<\/p>\n

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But no one is ever going to talk about that\u2026 It\u2019s going to be all about the reason behind why their little darling tried to kill themselves.<\/p>\n

I sound harsh, I know. <\/p>\n

Heck, I grew up waiting for the damn A-Bomb to wipe us out. I had to do well in school because if I didn\u2019t I\u2019d be held back for as long as it took for me to pass or I dropped out, whichever came first.<\/p>\n

I had the military crawling all over me wanting me to join up, see the world, serve my country.<\/p>\n

You want pressure or stress?<\/p>\n

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Try being different WITHOUT any expectation of support, understanding,  or, for that matter without even knowing that there were others who felt just like you.<\/p>\n

Bullying was the norm and you either toughened up or you spent your days crying.<\/p>\n

I can remember being bullied for the color of my fucking hair. Yeah! My hair color got me taunted and on at least one occasion in a fight. When I was a kid I was a \u201cSoulless Ginger\u201d as Cartman says on SouthPark.<\/p>\n

I toughened up, I learned to throw a punch, I became confident in myself and my abilities and created a niche where I was indispensable and thereby insured my safety.<\/p>\n

I also learned that safety was transient and no-one is forever indispensable. Turns out, those were valuable lessons and they\u2019ve served me well throughout my life.<\/p>\n

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There was one suicide in my High School. One that I\u2019ve always felt I should have seen coming or could have, should have, prevented.  The young man was troubled and while I\u2019m not sure, I suspect he might have realized he was gay.  <\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never know because he killed himself and the shame and stigma his family felt prevented our asking any questions about the period of time leading up to his suicide.<\/p>\n

I know there was some legal trouble that originated with a false fire alarm, and that his father had something to do with the fire department. But I knew nothing at the time about his home life or indeed who he was as a person.<\/p>\n

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I knew him, I spoke to him but he was very closed off. I\u2019m not even sure he was gay, I remember him being a \u201cblank\u201d, quiet in class, got good grades, but he didn\u2019t participate in any of the stuff the rest of us guys were into.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t think we were purposely ostracizing him, it was just that his name didn\u2019t come up when we planned to skip school or something.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always felt bad about not really \u201cseeing\u201d him. I think if I had, I\u2019d have seen perhaps a kindred spirit, or at least his pain.<\/p>\n

Things are totally different now. <\/p>\n

Bullies don\u2019t get their comeuppance in the form of a righteous pummeling. They can reach their victims with ease via our technology at all hours of the day and night.<\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019d rather be dead than red\u201d echoed exactly once off the side of the junior high school as I was leaving for the day. If I pedaled faster down the street, the wind in my ears would drown out even the nastiest words spoken about my Mom\u2019s marital status.<\/p>\n

Yes\u2026 I was one of THOSE children, (queue sad dramatic music) I was from a broken home!<\/p>\n

Little did I know, most of my friends, and<\/strong> the bullies were about to be similarly afflicted.<\/p>\n

We grew up, we adapted and we didn\u2019t kill ourselves\u2026 well with the one exception, generally we didn\u2019t kill ourselves on purpose. There were some car accidents that resulted in deaths<\/p>\n

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My point is, what the hell is going on?<\/p>\n

This world isn\u2019t all that bad a place. Yeah it can be a pisser, and you might not get everything your way, but it\u2019s not too shabby a place. <\/p>\n

I can tell you this for certain. (Most of the time\u2026 There are exceptions!) This world is a better place because you\u2019re in it.<\/p>\n

If there\u2019s something that you don\u2019t like or that bugs you, don\u2019t kill yourself, fix it! Fix it for everyone that comes after you and contribute to the betterment of the planet.<\/p>\n

That is of course if you have the capacity to get beyond your own selfishness.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Just heard about this one in my local area. Middle schoolers in a suicide pact?  Where the hell does that come from? Their lives are so tortured that before they can drive they\u2019re trying to kill themselves?   Don\u2019t get me wrong I have no pity for them and almost wish they\u2019d succeeded. Then they\u2019d … <\/p>\n

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