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I saw Cher spewed some comment about leaving the USA if Trump was to be re-elected. See YA!<\/p>\nI saw Cher spewed some comment about leaving the USA if Trump was to be re-elected. See YA!<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not trying to be mean about it but I recall a lot of Hollywood saying they\u2019d leave the USA if Trump was elected in the first place. They\u2019re all still here so I suspect either they\u2019re a bunch of liars (Possible & Likely\u2026) OR a lot of these loud mouths figured out that there\u2019s no-place else to go.\u00a0<\/p>\n
No-where on the planet would they be as free to act the way they act here. Most other places wouldn\u2019t allow them to shoot their mouths off about the leaders of the nation, and most wouldn\u2019t allow these Hollywood types to indulge in their various vices either.<\/p>\n
Where are you gonna go Cher?? Really?<\/p>\n
I too have wrestled with this question. Not over Trump, but over Obama!<\/p>\n
About half way through Obama\u2019s first term I concluded that the Hope and Change he\u2019d promised wasn\u2019t actually making things any better. I felt we\u2019d only handed the reins of power over to someone else who was more about the power than the people.<\/p>\n
I was very disappointed. I had high hopes that Obama could and would make changes that benefited everyone. I thought this was probable because of Obama\u2019s upbringing. I was wrong\u2026<\/p>\n
That\u2019s when I really began to feel very alienated. It wasn\u2019t about his race it was about the way others responded to his race. All I wanted was someone to bring the government to heel, I honestly didn\u2019t care about the person\u2019s color or gender all I wanted was better, smaller, government. Boy, did I bet on the wrong damn horse!<\/p>\n
I started looking for places to move. I tried to convince my other half that we\u2019d be better off someplace else. I was thinking other countries. I was looking for someplace where the law was in fact the law. Where rules meant something, A place where no-one gave a shit about your race, gender, sexuality, or whatever. The only criteria that mattered was what you as an individual brought to the table to contribute.<\/p>\n
My other half being much wiser than me said, \u201cWhen you find a place, babe we\u2019ll discuss it.<\/em>\u201d He knew I\u2019d never find a place that met my criteria. Because he knew intimately the failures of humanity and the best and most redeeming qualities as well. He saw people through a lens of religion at their best and worst.<\/p>\n He wasn\u2019t a Saint, but I\u2019d say he could give a lot of folks in the running for sainthood, some stiff competition.\u00a0<\/p>\n For all the fucked up mess that we\u2019ve allowed to become the norm in this country, The USA is still the best option. Aside from the fact that you\u2019re double taxed if you\u2019re a citizen living abroad, and that if you choose to give up your US citizenship the USA makes you buy your way out\u2026 Both situations I REALLY am opposed to!<\/p>\n Being in another country may not be the best way to go. There\u2019s a cultural context that is hard to get around. We Americans are loud, we\u2019re bossy, we\u2019re arrogant, and it\u2019s not that we\u2019re trying<\/em> to be any of these things, it\u2019s that we are used to having so much, that when we\u2019re confronted with any limitations, we get obnoxious. Some might say childish.<\/p>\n In my travels outside the USA I\u2019ve witnessed more Americans than not, being assholes unintentionally. It\u2019s usually been due to something fundamental in the culture of the country we were visiting, that my fellow Americans or I missed.<\/p>\n Magnify those social faux pas by thousands and you not \u201cgetting\u201d why things are done a particular way in another country and over time, you\u2019re going to feel not at home. Sure you\u2019ll adapt to a lot of things, but you\u2019ll never \u201cget\u201d it all.<\/p>\n It\u2019s tough to feel like you never really belong. Oh, at first you don\u2019t really notice that you don\u2019t belong, you think over time you\u2019ll blend in. To some extent that is true. But the more different the culture or local beliefs the less you\u2019re likely to really blend in and feel comfortable and at home.<\/p>\n I feel that, in California. I\u2019ve been here 40 years or longer. I function here, but between the basic differences in the way California has always done things, and the accumulation of more radical changes over time, I\u2019ve become less and less comfortable here. This fact was slammed home to me when I noticed my blood pressure dropped 10 points on trips outside California. Imagine waking up in a strange hotel after driving all day long, not eating right, fast food, too much salt, and your bp is 10 points lower than when you wake up in your own house.<\/p>\n My plan\u2019s derailment was made less difficult because when we met, he lived in a little mountain town that was a lot like where I came from. When we moved in together, I moved to that mountain town and was actually pretty comfortable. Over time, my comfort level has diminished because the town has changed right along with California. By California standards we’re a redneck town. Comparing the town today, to the town when I first moved up here, My little town is a lot like what California was 40 years ago.\u00a0<\/p>\n I saw the changes in California overall, and in my little town in particular. I stayed because of my other half. Now that he\u2019s gone, I find myself reconsidering the original plan to go back to an area of the country where I am culturally compatible.<\/p>\n My desire to move to another country entirely has abated somewhat. I do still like the thought of a small house overlooking a Fjord, miles from anyone else. This is horribly impractical at my age and while it\u2019s a nice fantasy, perhaps even a bucket list item for a vacation, it\u2019s not something I can see as a permanent residence.<\/p>\n What I can see, is a place in this country where I don\u2019t feel like an alien. I\u2019d like to be someplace where speaking my mind isn\u2019t fraught with the high likelihood that I\u2019ll be involved in an altercation.<\/p>\n As a kid, I was surrounded several times by black kids who tended to bully other smaller kids. They behaved like a pack surrounding their prey then throwing punches when the prey\u2019s back was turned. Since you were trapped in a circle there was no way you weren\u2019t going to get hurt. This led to my not being comfortable in crowds for most of my life. I really need to have space around me and most people notice I\u2019m always scanning the area. My looking past you isn\u2019t meant as an insult, It\u2019s a safety measure. One I was taught at the brutal hands of black bullies who thought it was fun or funny to hurt people smaller than they were. They only stopped bullying me when they thought I\u2019d lost my mind, I started hunting the leaders of \u201cThe Pack\u201d and attacking them when they were alone. You cause damage to a bully, and make them fear you then suddenly they stop bullying you.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve been seeing more of this \u201cpack\u201d behavior across the nation, It\u2019s not limited to any particular racial group, it\u2019s become commonplace in larger cities and it seems to be more prevalent in large liberal populations than in places that are more conservative leaning. Of course that\u2019s not a hard fast rule but it\u2019s a general guide. I\u2019m sure that beating the fuck out of the leaders of these \u201cNew Packs\u201d would be as effective today as it was when I was in school. I\u2019d prefer to void the problem entirely. One way to do that is to move someplace where the majority of people feel and think like I do.<\/p>\n It\u2019s kind of like the Starbucks rule. If you\u2019re looking at moving into a particular neighborhood, count how many Starbucks shops there are. The more affluent and crime free the neighborhood, the more Starbucks you\u2019ll find. The exception to this rule might be Seattle. The last time I was there, Starbucks shops were on every corner, including four shops in one shopping plaza.<\/p>\n I fully understand that this actually leads to polarization. There was a time when I\u2019d have thought that was a bad thing, but now\u2026 Not so much. I\u2019d be happy if the place I choose to live is about a 50\/50 mix. But I\u2019m looking for a place that\u2019s more like a 60\/40 mix, Conservative \/ Liberal. 70\/30 and I\u2019d be ecstatic.<\/p>\n This is in part driven by the fact that I don\u2019t understand a lot of the rules in play in California anymore. I\u2019m looking to go back to places where most of the rules I was raised with are still in force. I don\u2019t want to have to deal with a pack of humans rampaging, I don\u2019t want to be trapped in a Starbucks by BLM protestors demanding compliance and adherence to their beliefs ever again<\/strong>. I didn\u2019t like that I couldn\u2019t leave, I had no weapons but my fists, and so many other people in the place were effectively saying \u201cYes Massa\u201d.<\/p>\n I want to be in a place where I can carry a weapon but that it\u2019s unlikely I\u2019ll need to. That\u2019s a funny equation, in places where constitutional carry exists, there are a lot of folks who don\u2019t carry a gun because they know they don\u2019t need to. It\u2019s actually funny because that\u2019s sort of the description of herd immunity. Not everyone has to be inoculated because enough of the population are, that disease transmission is nil.<\/p>\n I want to live in a place where kindness and courtesy are valued. I\u2019d like to live someplace where I know my neighbors and interact with them in beneficial ways.<\/p>\n I decided that no asshole President was going to make me leave my country. They\u2019re only in office 8 years max, so who cares? Obama, Trump, Biden, Bush, Clinton, Nixon, they all came and went but the country remained.<\/p>\n People like Cher should be way more concerned with Congress. Those shitty hacks stay in office long enough to really cause changes and honestly, those changes are a lot more long lasting and dangerous than what the President does.<\/p>\n If she and others like her want to move someplace, Maybe they should consider moving to places in the USA where folks think more like they do. Cher is in California, maybe she should stay here. Soon she\u2019s going to have one less conservative leaning Californian to contend with. I won\u2019t be cancelling her vote for President Dumbass in the next election.<\/p>\n Now, If I could get off this planet entirely\u2026 That\u2019s gonna be another story!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I saw Cher spewed some comment about leaving the USA if Trump was to be re-elected. See YA! I\u2019m not trying to be mean about it but I recall a lot of Hollywood saying they\u2019d leave the USA if Trump was elected in the first place. They\u2019re all still here so I suspect either they\u2019re … <\/p>\n![\"Where](\"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Where-Will-You-Go.jpg\" "\\"Where-Will-You-Go.jpg\\"")
I was on my way out of California 35-36 years ago. My plan got derailed because I fell in love.<\/p>\n