{"id":13008,"date":"2023-08-11T13:44:16","date_gmt":"2023-08-11T20:44:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/2023\/08\/11\/really-my-god-i-wish-people-would-separate-their-feelings-from-facts\/"},"modified":"2023-08-15T09:49:53","modified_gmt":"2023-08-15T16:49:53","slug":"really-my-god-i-wish-people-would-separate-their-feelings-from-facts","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bone-in-the-throat.com\/Blog\/2023\/08\/11\/really-my-god-i-wish-people-would-separate-their-feelings-from-facts\/","title":{"rendered":"Really? My God I wish people would separate their feelings from facts."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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I\u2019m not sure that I\u2019m going to be able to do so very well but I\u2019m going to give it a shot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I ran across an (AP) Article titled US suicides hit an all-time high last year<\/a><\/strong> I thought, \u201cThat\u2019s concerning but not really surprising.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t speak to the rise in suicide among young black men, but I wouldn\u2019t be surprised if its a factor of hopelessness much like what I feel being in the 45 to 65 age group. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Realistically, what would it be like to be told literally everywhere all the time that the boogy man of systemic racism, will never<\/strong> allow you to succeed. (Personally I believe that racism is worse today than it was at the beginning of the Obama Administration, and that it\u2019s fed in large part by politicians and people who make money from misery. BLM, Al Sharpton, etc,<\/em>) <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Imagine being told you\u2019re a victim and always will be, or you\u2019re not smart enough, or good enough and no matter how hard you work at it, you\u2019re always going to fail, because of something that you have no control over. Add to that, how many of these young men may be losing friends to violence, or drugs. Maybe they can be included in the white 45 to 65 age group for the purposes of studying why suicides are increasing because of similarity in the root causes? <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Just off hand I can think of reasons that might<\/em> be causing an uptick in the white male 45 to 65 age group.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

A lot of folks in that age group happen to be veterans. Veterans have not been served well by the VA especially in the area of Mental Health. This is also the time in life when you start losing old friends, spouses, parents, and a lot of men find themselves asking existential questions like, \u201cIs this all there is? Work for fuckers I hate, making them rich, while they threaten and bully me with losing my job every fucking day?\u201d Don\u2019t even think that companies wouldn\u2019t allow that kind of bullying, or it\u2019s a rarity. Some supervisors think it\u2019s funny to threaten subordinates with their jobs. Others use it as a way to \u201cWhip their crew into shape,\u201d and no HR department ever takes action. Their response is, \u201cI\u2019m sure the supervisor was joking.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

The job angle assumes a man has managed to keep working in the first place. If they\u2019ve been laid off for the 20th time in their life after buying into yet another corporate pack of lies, ( We believe in family first, time off, vacations, and bonuses for good work\u2026<\/em>) that sure sounded like promises<\/strong> or agreements<\/strong>, they might just feel like, what\u2019s the fucking point\u2026<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Contrary to popular belief, just because you\u2019re older doesn\u2019t mean that there are enough management or owner slots for everyone. The majority of folks aren\u2019t going to get that single promotion slot\u2026 Often being older just means you\u2019re at the top of an HR layoff list. Oh that shit is illegal, but the employee can\u2019t prove they were the victim of ageism so older workers are totally screwed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Having explored that existential question myself, I can say that the feeling of hopelessness and despair can be overwhelming. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I can also say with some certainty of belief, that our government, in collusion with Corporate America is directly responsible for any suicides over job losses. My belief is that the worker visa program is horribly flawed and government inaction bringing that system to heel, is killing Americans. It\u2019s been obvious on its face for decades. When American workers have to train foreign Hn-nnn workers to replace them, we have a serious fucking problem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

The Hn-nnn system is destroying or has destroyed more than it has helped. President Bush be damned with his \u201cThese are jobs Americans won\u2019t do,\u201d bullshit!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Then there\u2019s the terror most people feel about the IRS if they\u2019ve worked long enough to have made, much less saved, any kind of money at all. The IRS has become a ravenous beast flinging audits and locking bank accounts at the drop of a hat. This is usually explained as crime prevention but almost always involves some small business owner who takes a lot of cash payments like a laundromat or coffee shop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

But that\u2019s not all. Society is a mess. I\u2019d like to see statistics on how many of the 49,500 had recently lost their jobs, have been involved in, or accused of, sexual harassment, have been accused of \/counseled for racism or misgendering, were under IRS audit, might have been conservatives, may have been christian, possibly had a dim view of drag shows in front of children, might have voted for Trump, perhaps preferred common sense & old values to reading bullshit thrown at a wall to chart today\u2019s course of action, or any of the million other razor blade hot button issues one could possibly run afoul of these days. Some members of families see no difficulty \u201cCancelling\u201d each other over the new set of rules. Does that lead to more isolation and therefore higher suicide?<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I often feel like I\u2019m living in a social mine field and I\u2019m unemployed! I can\u2019t imagine what it would be like to have to deal with chaotic societal rules every day with no choice. If I\u2019m not up for the silliness I simply don\u2019t participate. It isn\u2019t that I want to avoid other people or completely divorce myself from society. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I simply don\u2019t always have the energy or desire to keep up with social rules that change as fast as vibrating atoms. In social settings today, failure to comply has immediate and sometimes lasting, even violent consequences. As a rule, there is no mercy or forgiveness<\/strong> for someone being unaware of an arbitrary rule created 12 seconds ago, or making a social mistake. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t want to live constantly in fear. I\u2019m very content waving at y\u2019all as you whiz by on what is in my humble opinion, the highway to hell. \u201cHave a nice oblivion morons,\u201d is what I find myself thinking more often than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Admittedly, it makes me lonely. Especially since losing my spouse. But I was sort of lonely before losing my spouse. In a social sense we didn\u2019t have a large circle. We relied on each other for support and there was comfort in knowing that no matter how shitty the rest of the world was, when we got home we had each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I get why people in my particular situation would flirt with the idea of suicide, or even decide it was preferable to living in this ever increasing insanity \/ stupidity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

What caught my attention was that the article turned toward Guns being the problem. I found that offensive as hell. (Yeah, I know my feelings & beliefs are intruding\u2026) People choosing to kill themselves with a gun is just logical. By all accounts a bullet scrambling your brain is quick and probably relatively painless. That\u2019s why slaughter houses use a boltgun on cattle. Brain is gone, cow dies, NEXT! <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

The gun isn\u2019t the problem, nor are guns the source of suicidal ideation. (I picked that term up from a Psychologist. See I can learn things, as long as you\u2019re not reversing every two seconds\u2026<\/em>) I\u2019m too cheap to go buy a gun for the purpose of suicide. Strangely I\u2019d be worried about the mess and who would have to clean it up. Is that a point in favor of the slightly OCD crowd???<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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If someone wants to kill themselves they will, just as if someone wants to kill someone else they don\u2019t need a gun, a gun might be convenient, but it\u2019s damn easy to kill a human. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

The venerable club makes a fine weapon. Smack someone with a baseball bat in the head a few times and that\u2019s pretty much the end. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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As an aside, that is why I personally was appalled at how the media and police addressed the \u201cKnock Out\u201d game. Smacking someone at the base of the skull with a lot of force, such as running up behind them, is attempted murder in my book. It\u2019s not a game at all.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

If someone wants to kill themselves there are a lot of ways to do it. All you have to do is look around. There are literally thousands of sources of poison. Under your kitchen sink for example. Chlorine Bleach and Ammonia mixed in a confined space can do ya really quick.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

If I was looking to go the poison route I\u2019d just score some Fentanyl. Thank you China, Joe Biden, and open borders\u2026 It\u2019s cheap, easy, and quick. The beauty of this method is that if you don\u2019t leave a note, it will probably be ruled an accidental overdose and your life insurance if you have any, will pay off to your family. Get high as fuck and die. Now there\u2019s a plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

If you believe that killing yourself is a mortal sin, you could leave it in Gods hands. You could go to a black neighborhood and scream racist shit at the top of your lungs. Or you could walk into your local mosque and light a Quran on fire, perhaps while screaming Muhammad was a pedophile, who took it in the ass, and false prophet. If you lived through either of these events you could perhaps go on living knowing God had a plan for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

You could use death cap mushrooms, you could go old school with other ancient poisons. Hemlock for example. A quick search of toxic plants is very enlightening. Oleander for can be deadly, even the common Daffodil bulb can kill, I\u2019d say chop finely and brew as a tea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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My point is, Death is easy to find if<\/strong> you\u2019re looking for it. Gun or no gun if someone is going to kill themselves they will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I am repeatedly offended by politicians and other organizations using anyone\u2019s death to push forward their fevered dreams of gun control. I don\u2019t care if you\u2019re talking about a mass shooting, or a single suicide. The dead are not for politicians to use for self aggrandizement or political gain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s agree that the real problem is that the person felt they had no hope, no future, and nothing to live for. (Perhaps we should eliminate politicians and their divisive rhetoric. It might be interesting to see where that leads us. Just a thought\u2026<\/em>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I was glad to note near the bottom of the article there were some constructive things. The CDC working to expand suicide prevention services and the national 988 hotline number are encouraging steps. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Sometimes all that\u2019s needed to part the clouds of depression is someone indicating that they give a shit about you and aren\u2019t interested in using you. So if you know someone who\u2019s depressed, give \u2018em a call or a text just let them know you thought about them. I smile several times a day from a text message as simple as \u201cI heard or saw X and thought of you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

That goes both ways, if you\u2019re depressed or feeling a little suicidal, (dear God don\u2019t do what I\u2019ve done here in this blog post and think too long about it, ) give someone, anyone, a call. Or you can go to a public place, help a stranger. Pick up an errant bit of trash some child dropped so their mother doesn\u2019t have to. I\u2019m always surprised that my doing simple things, and receiving just a smile for my trouble is remarkably uplifting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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FYI for me personally, If I was to get totally suicidal, I think I\u2019d go with a fabric belt around a stout closet rod, naked with a dildo up my ass, jerking off, and wearing a pair of roller skates. Autoerotic asphyxiation is just soooo unseemly and dirty. It\u2019s kind of the ultimate FUCK YOU! To the world. It says, \u201cI blew my load and arrived to judgement still dripping!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

So friends, don\u2019t worry about me buying a gun, worry if I buy roller skates!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

To those of you who might be scared that I\u2019d given this too much thought\u2026 Nope! Not really. Back in the early days of AIDS, a lot of my friends who nearing their end and not wishing to die gasping in agony in a hospital would ask me what I thought about suicide and how to go about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

They asked me, because I had the ability to respect their choice without making judgement about it. In other words I\u2019d give them a straight answer and was open to discussing the options pragmatically.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

I miss those guys. I\u2019m glad they\u2019re in a better place and hope to someday meet up with them again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

A LONG number of somedays in the future! Until then guys, keep the bar tab open and the servers hotter than hell, cause when I get back with you guys, I plan to party!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

Dang I was looking for a really offensive photo of autoerotic asphyxiation to finish this piece off with there was nothing truly interesting. Although what came up were a lot of photos of men having choke sex with women. But that isn\u2019t autoerotic, is it?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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Here\u2019s the best I could do\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n

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